A new mom and her baby had come in for their first well-child visit and her son was just 3 days old. Mom was tired and overwhelmed as many new parents are. She was sitting by the window, changing her son’s diaper and just watching him, and she sighed a long, heavy sigh. And just gazed at her son quietly as he wiggled around. There was no slow smile or beaming pride. Just deep sadness. What clinical guidelines, healthcare, and social convention tell us is that she was exhibiting signs of postpartum depression. While that may also have been true, … Continue reading The Birth of Grief
If you have been following along for a little while, you know that one of the things I have been ruminating and writing about is loss. We all know it in some way. And we will certainly know more. To live is to love, and also to lose. It’s not uncommon for us to ‘rank’ loss. Which kind of loss is worse, changes us more deeply, is more worthy of grieving, or warrants talking about at all. Is the loss of an aging parent worthy of years of sadness? Can you be devastated by the way divorce changes your life? … Continue reading What kind of loss is harder?
An interesting article was published this past Summer on the very real, little-discussed changes that occur in the brain of a pregnant, postpartum, and/or caregiving person. There are a number of rapid and monumental changes that happen to the portion of our brains that control social-emotional processes or the “ability to atttribute emotions and mental states to other people- key to raising a human.” “The more brain change the mothers experienced, the higher they scored on measures of emotional attachment to their babies, a finding that echoed past studies. And the changes in most brain regions remained two years later.” Whoa. Two years?! … Continue reading Why Does My Brain Feel Like it is Leaking?
It goes without saying that there are dozens of people who make it possible for midwives to be there for families. And it’s not just being able to pick up where we leave off. It’s continuing to be on even … Continue reading Midwifing the Midwife
I would love to replace the typical birth registry of items that all new parents “need”. Instead, I want new parents to receive a different kind of checklist. A checklist that would include ways to prepare for parenthood and postpartum that could actually help prevent postpartum depression, isolation, and suffering. And yes, hand-me-downs would still be incredibly helpful! I have no doubt that baby swings and swaddle blankets have saved sanity and have probably saved lives. But if we are really concerned about healthy families and getting off to a good start, why don’t we talk more about what families … Continue reading Postpartum ‘Must Haves’ That Have Nothing To Do With Buying Stuff
This week my son turned 4 years old. It seems like he has been here for a minute and at the same time that I have known him my entire life. Of course this has me thinking about my pregnancy, what I was doing when I went into labor, my labor, my labor, my labor (that’s one ‘labor’ for each day), his birth, our first night all snuggled into bed together, and those postpartum weeks. I have to say- it was glorious. It wasn’t glorious because I ‘did everything right’. It was glorious because I was just able to be. … Continue reading Birth and rebirth
Here is a lovely discussion of flu vaccination by one of my favorite docs, Aviva Romm: http://avivaromm.com/flu-vaccine-in-pregnancy-whats-a-girl-to-do Enjoy! Continue reading Flu for thought
Check out the link to this story and pictures of how it is possible to stay active and fit while pregnant (albeit more active and fit than most of us!): https://www.againfaster.com/en/blog/2012/02/17/pregnant/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_term=lifting%2Bfor%2Btwo&utm_content=february&utm_campaign=magazine Continue reading Love this story of a fit pregnant momma….
And one more…this article recently published in the NYT discusses how babies growing up in bilingual environments experience a different level of ‘neural commitment’ and even tools for future language development: http://www.nytimes.com/2011/10/11/health/views/11klass.html?_r=3&adxnnl=1&ref=general&src=me&adxnnlx=1322462969-8EwWAJ89FpSfQGlbGhaEVg Continue reading How Babies Learn Language
Hello! Today is my day to share the wisdom of other writers! I am passing along this link to an incredibly eye-opening interview regarding the true nature of a strong pelvic floor. Enjoy! http://journeytocrunchville.wordpress.com/2010/08/17/why-you-should-stop-doing-kegels/#entry Continue reading Strong Pelvic Floors and How to Get One